Tuesday, October 24, 2006

1 Corinthians 7 (NLT)

Instruction on Marriage

1 Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.[a] 2 But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. But God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.
8 So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9 But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord.[b] A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man[c] has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband[d] brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy. 15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife[e] is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you[f] to live in peace.) 16 Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?
17 Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches. 18 For instance, a man who was circumcised before he became a believer should not try to reverse it. And the man who was uncircumcised when he became a believer should not be circumcised now. 19 For it makes no difference whether or not a man has been circumcised. The important thing is to keep God’s commandments.
20 Yes, each of you should remain as you were when God called you. 21 Are you a slave? Don’t let that worry you—but if you get a chance to be free, take it. 22 And remember, if you were a slave when the Lord called you, you are now free in the Lord. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ. 23 God paid a high price for you, so don’t be enslaved by the world.[g] 24 Each of you, dear brothers and sisters,[h] should remain as you were when God first called you.
25 Now regarding your question about the young women who are not yet married. I do not have a command from the Lord for them. But the Lord in his mercy has given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will share it with you. 26 Because of the present crisis,[i] I think it is best to remain as you are. 27 If you have a wife, do not seek to end the marriage. If you do not have a wife, do not seek to get married. 28 But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.
29 But let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short. So from now on, those with wives should not focus only on their marriage. 30 Those who weep or who rejoice or who buy things should not be absorbed by their weeping or their joy or their possessions. 31 Those who use the things of the world should not become attached to them. For this world as we know it will soon pass away.
32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.
36 But if a man thinks that he’s treating his fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It is not a sin. 37 But if he has decided firmly not to marry and there is no urgency and he can control his passion, he does well not to marry. 38 So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.
39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord.[j] 40 But in my opinion it would be better for her to stay single, and I think I am giving you counsel from God’s Spirit when I say this.

Footnotes:
a. 1 Corinthians 7:1 Greek It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
b. 1 Corinthians 7:10 See Matt 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18.
c. 1 Corinthians 7:12 Greek a brother.
d. 1 Corinthians 7:14 Greek the brother.
e. 1 Corinthians 7:15 Greek the brother or sister.
f. 1 Corinthians 7:15 Some manuscripts read us.
g. 1 Corinthians 7:23 Greek don’t become slaves of people.
h. 1 Corinthians 7:24 Greek brothers; also in 7:29.
i. 1 Corinthians 7:26 Or the pressures of life.
j. 1 Corinthians 7:39 Greek but only in the Lord.

4 comments:

cas said...

Morning.

I pray that you all are doing well. CRB I certaibnly know you situation well. Walk it quite frequently myself.

The first part of this chapter gave me a little insight into a few things I was struggling with, so that was good.

In the second, half, these 2 sentences were my focus

32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life.

and

v35...I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

Amen. I'll go for these thanks.

Father God, I ask for You guidance today in all that I do. May my actions and attitude represent You Father.

In Christ,
cas

LRT said...

Morning Fellas,

We have an awesome God. I really needed this scripture. Lately, it has been a hard struggle to deny myself from my sexual desires but I am still winning. Reading this passage reassures me that I am not along with this struggle.

verse 32 stood out to me.
(32) I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him.

Lord, I come to you this morning praying for guidance in doing your work and asking for help with my struggles. Help me keep my mind and thoughts focused on you.

Amen,
LT

CRB said...

1 Cor 7
3 verses got me this morning:
22 And remember, if you were a slave when the Lord called you, you are now free in the Lord. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ.
I've certainly not been acting like a slave of Christ recently. More looking to lean on Him when it fits me, not at all times.
23 God paid a high price for you, so don’t be enslaved by the world.
This has certainly been my sin the last few weeks, slave to TV, sports, focusing on me, instead of on God.
24 Each of you, dear brothers and sisters,[h] should remain as you were when God first called you.
This one is the hardest for me, cause I'm so far from who I used to be. In lots of good ways, but in lots of weak ways also. I realize I've grown in Christ, but also find my self far from being "wild at heart".

Father, thank you for getting me through yesterday and back here today. Give me guidance to get as much done as you want me to and to live my life for You.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
crb

jmb said...

I Cor 7

Very interesting passage on marriage and the load it is on one's life. Some heavy theology here as well, regarding the holiness of children and spouse through a believing spouse/parent.

I think for me, one of the greatest advantages that I have seen with marriage is that I began seeing how selfish I am. As a single, I would have just increased in my arrogance. I am far from the humble guy I would like to be, but at least God has used marriage to expose sin in my life.

I am amazed at a man who can be sold out for Christ to a level the way this passage describes. To extend this out to other areas of our lives besides just marriage.

Do we ask these same questions of other "marriages" in our lives? Will investment in this or that hobby, or this or that club, or activity or, job or...or... enable me to serve God better with less distraction or more clarity?

Lord, Take my life and make it what you want it to be. I want to strive the place in this world where you think I can serve you most effectively. Help me to start by serving and pleasing my wife. In christ's name, Amen jmb