Tuesday, January 19, 2010

You Never Do Anything You Don't Want to Do

by Shawn McEvoy, Crosswalk.com Senior Editor

Galatians 6:5

Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. The Message

For we are each responsible for our own conduct. NLT

If I try, I can remember my friends from 10th-grade Sunday School. In fact, I'm still tight with two of them. I remember our church, our youth group, and our youth minister. What I don't remember so well are the individual lessons we learned from the Bible each week. As I realize that, I give myself another kick for not having gotten into note-taking and journaling. I'd like to have those things to review now.

What I do recall from one particular class session, however, has always stuck with me. And it wasn't even a quote from the Bible. To show how much I've forgotten, I don't even remember the name of the teacher who said it! He was tall, well-accomplished, but still wanting to give of his time to young men. And one day he looked at us and said the following:

"Today's lesson is going to be very short. Look at me, because whatever you remember from today, remember this. Whatever you remember from your time in this youth group, remember this: You never do anything you don't want to do."

That was it. Obviously I still remember it. Why?

I remember challenging the teacher on that day, most of us scoffing and saying things like, "Yeah, right... I can honestly tell you I do not want to do my homework tonight."

"Yes you do."

"No, I really don't."

"What will happen if you don't?"

"Well, I guess I'd be embarrassed when it was time to turn it in, I'd probably have to lie to my parents when they asked if I'd done it yet, and I wouldn't be prepared for the upcoming quiz."
"So I guess the reason you're going to do your homework is because for the motives you just stated, you DO want to do it."

Snap.

Seven or eight high school boys just got handed a logic lesson in responsibility and motivation. All around the room you could see eyes and minds opening to new possibilities.

This is what we'd been hearing about free will. But now contextualized and personalized.
This is what our parents and teachers had been getting at as they spoke to us about becoming responsible young men.

This put my actions all squarely back on me. And oddly enough, that was something I could tangibly handle.

The applications were endless.

I'm still not even sure his statement was absolutely true, or biblical. But to be honest, it doesn't matter anymore, because it informed and continues to inform many things in my life that are true and biblical.

Do I want to lay in bed or do I want to get to work? Why or why not?

Why am I overweight? Well, my bad. Guess I wanted that, too, when you get down to the nub of it. Certainly didn't do the things I knew would prevent it.

One of the doors that opened to me was in realizing that once I got past "my will be done," I could begin to pray as Jesus did, "Your will be done."

Another was in being able to recognize motivation. Why am I going to conquer this lust or pursue this knowledge or accomplish this hard task for God's Kingdom? Because ultimately, what I want to do is to have my heart's desires be the same as Yours, Lord. That's where You tell us delight is, and that's the only place where we know what we want is right.

Intersecting Faith & Life: What action or reaction in your own life have you been blaming on other people or circumstances? Write down all the ways you yourself can own up to it.

Further Reading

1 Thessalonians 5:12
Philippians 1:23
We Are Responsible for Others

6 comments:

cas said...

I have been reading alot about emotional inteligence recently and I think you can take this even further to controlling your emotions. I am reading "the love dare" right now and it really puts something in perspective as well about love. It talks alot about how love thinks and that it is not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion. Rational thinking has to take over. This can only come from Christ for me. I can be so selfish. We choose how we wll respond to things. Remeber that quote from a few eeks back that said the difference in a good marriage and a great marriage is a few things going unsaid a day. So true. Praying for you guys.

Blessings

cas

ps - what a blessing that we can interact with each other from all over the country and most of you not even knowing one another because of Jesus. Amen

DSD said...

Wow. Busted by Clark - again!

Paul is pretty clear that even when we set out to do good, evil is right there with us. Let's face it - I'm a sinner because I CHOOSE to be a sinner. I LOVE to sin.

If it wasn't for Christ, I would be a miserable wreck - having a banquet in my own grave, thinking that I was really living. I'm so glad that Christ would not settle for that kind of existence in my life!

I want to follow Christ. Not because He blesses me; But, because of the blessings, I have seen something of His character that makes me want to know Him as a Father and Friend. I want Him more than I want His stuff! I just pray that these words are true, even when I'm not feelin' it...

-D

cas said...

One down, 19 to go.

tom anderson said...

>>Remember that quote from a few weeks back that said the difference in a good marriage and a great marriage is a few things going unsaid a day. So true.

Said it this morning. Thanks for the reminder, CAS.

tba

trm said...

great stuff...very profound both DSD and CAS! great quote pertaining to marriage...

ldb said...

Thinking about it this way really makes me think what a selfish SOB I am. I gotta confess that if that statement is true I have serious problems, because I do all kinds of things that are very, very selfish. WOW
Good one cas