2 Corinthians 4:18 While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.
Why do Fortune 500 companies pay such huge salaries to their top executives? Because they know that leadership makes a difference.
As a husband and father, your leadership will make a difference in your family. Oh, your wife and children may survive from day to day, but are they heading anywhere? Are they growing in Christlike character? Are they focusing on what is important?
There is no question why so many marriages and families are in trouble. Too many men are functioning only as material providers. We need a new breed of men who can appreciate and expend energy, time and-most importantly-focused attention on the spiritual aspect of family life.
We need a new breed of men who have the ability to focus on the unseen-the eternal-as well as the seen. Men who will say no to more bucks when it means sacrificing their families. A new breed who will ask, with every decision they make: "How will this affect the relationships within my family?"
We need a new breed of men who will recognize they need to leave something to posterity that will outlive the financial inheritances they may leave for their children: proven character...a new breed of men who realize that to succeed in the eyes of men but fail in the eyes of God is the ultimate failure.
One man has said, "It is better to fail in a cause that will ultimately succeed than to succeed in a cause that will ultimately fail."
Will you take upon yourself the challenge Albert Einstein gave a group of young scientists? While addressing this highly motivated group of young men, he said, "Gentlemen, try not to become men of success. But rather, try to become men of value."
Prayer: Imagine your children as grown and established in their own families. Pray for what each one will become.
Discuss: What material things do you hope to leave to your children? What specific spiritual values do you hope to instill in them? Which of these "keepsakes" is more important?
4 comments:
Although I'm a single guy I feel like maybe I shouldn't have kids. I've always wondered if I would be a good father for it's always been more than just be a bread winner. Where's does one even start becoming a good father/mentor/role model?
Hey Iceman. Great question. One I struggle with every day, after 20 years of marriage. First step is to realize that aren't good at those. I for one took too long to figure that out. My selfishness and pride forced a disproportionate focus on my needs, as opposed to the needs I can fulfill. I have also too often let my wife lead spiritually. But, it rings a bit empty if we as fathers aren't leading this. We are on a quest to get closer to God in our family, indivually and corporately. But, it will only have a changing impact if I allow God to change me.
Guys, I also struggle with being selfish and self-centered in my home. I also get distracted with secondary things and let my wife pick up the torch for the daily spiritual input especially as it comes to reading the word or memorizing scripture.
Let's pray that we all live sacrificially today and put others interests before our own no matter if you're a father or not. I echo JMB's comment that we allow God to change us and refine us.
jmb, nice to see you back. hope all is going well on your new adventure. character is a tough one. i struggle with blowing my top and being frustrated. that is not a character trait i want them to learn fom me. my prayer is that God changes me and that He knows I am willing. Iceman, the answer is easy - at the foot of the cross brother. that is where a man can learn to live as a fully devoted follower, father/mentor/role model.
blessings
cas
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